12/22/2009

We must be doin' something right...

Have you ever wondered if you are doing a good job raising your children? Are we making the choices that will have a positive impact on their future? I do all the time. Are we too hard on them? Do we expect too much? What kind of 'adult' person will they be? Once they move out on their own, will they want to come home to see us or will they think "shew....finally outta there". These are some of the many thoughts that cross our minds from time to time.

Most of you know we have four children. PERIOD. It doesn't matter that only two were already a part of me when I met my sole mate. A family we became with a two year old and a seven year old....and it truly has always been a family. Later when Cierra and Chase were born, our family simply grew. We have never referred to them as half brothers and sisters (although some people disagreed), they are simply brothers and sisters. Through the years, the level of attention has adjusted based on the current situation (baseball, dance, cheerleading, 4H, Scouts, etc) but we always like to hope each of them remember the many activities we supported throughout the years and know that we treat each of them the same.

Tonight something happened that made me realize we are doing 'ok' raising our children. Chase and Cierra put together a plan for Christmas without Ronnie and I being involved. I can't go into too much detail as it will spoil the contentment they will experience but let me just say that tonight is one of the nights I can lay my head down and know that we have four of the best children in the land!

Cierra is the doer so she worked hard finalizing everything and searched for some quotes. I scanned through the book and found some that she had marked - (she's probably not going to like it that I shared)

Little deeds of kindness, little words of love, help to make earth happy like the heavens above. (Julie Fletcher Carney)

My crown is in my heart, not on my head; not deck'd with diamonds and Indian stones, nor to be seen: my crown is call'd content; a crown it is that seldom kings enjoy. (William Shakespear)

Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out. (Art Linkletter)

I also found these words on a stickee.....It's not about 2, It's all about 4.

It's amazing that an 11 and 13 year old see things in such a mature way. More to come about this during the holidays but tonight I am very proud of these two ----

I believe "life isn't always fair" but if FAIR can be controlled, Cierra and Chase are on it :)

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